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The decision to choose marriage therapy sometimes is tough. Couples know something isn’t working. What if the matter is them and not their partner? What if they discover things that they don’t want to know? Avoiding the problems is easier than handling them head-on.

The point of therapy isn’t to place blame. Therapists try to provide space for the couple to see new insights and refresh their relationship.

The key is finding a therapist who can work for the marriage and the family. They can offer couples a new point of view on shared experiences. They can provide ideas and tools which couples can try outside of sessions. These can include several communication techniques and behavioral changes.

Many therapists will teach some sort of conflict management. A well-liked version is to use “I” statements. For instance, “I feel lonely, and miss you when you’re away for nights at a time. Is there a way we can spend time longer together before you go on your next trip?” Couples can revive their relationship by finding professional therapists like those on ReGain.

Gottman’s research determines that couples in conflict can improve by:

  • Starting with a gentle approach. Rather than attacking your partner, try stating how you are feeling and what you would like or need.

  • Compromising with one another.

  • Calming down. Take an outing when your blood is boiling. Nobody thinks clearly when they’re angry.


Finding the proper therapist for you

Finding the proper therapist will probably take a while and work, but it’s well worth the effort. The connection you've got with your therapist is important. You would like someone who you'll trust—someone you feel comfortable with talking about difficult subjects and intimate secrets, someone who is going to be a partner in your recovery. Therapy won’t be effective unless you've got this bond, so take a while at the start to seek out the proper person. It’s okay to search around and ask questions when interviewing potential therapists.

  • Experience matters. One of the most important things that a therapist should have is experience. Search for a therapist who is experienced in treating the issues that you have. Often, therapists have special areas of focus, like depression or eating disorders. Experienced therapists have seen the issues you’re facing again and again, which broadens their view and provides them more insight. And for a few problems, like trauma or PTSD, seeing a specialist is completely essential.

  • Learn about different treatment orientations. Many therapists practice a mix of orientations. However, it’s a good idea to find out about the various treatment types, which will affect your therapist’s way of relating to you as well as the length of treatment.

  • Check their license. Credentials aren’t everything, but if you’re paying for a licensed professional, confirm the therapist holds a current license and is in good standing with the state regulatory board. Regulatory boards vary by state and profession. Also, check for complaints against the therapist.

  • Trust your gut. Although your therapist looks great on paper, if the connection doesn’t feel right—if you don’t trust the person or if you feel they don’t really care—go with another choice. An honest therapist will respect this choice and will never pressure you or cause you to feel guilty.

How Can Marriage Therapy Help Marital Issues?

The tough truth is that therapy may not help if your partner has chosen divorce; it would be difficult to reverse that decision. If the couple has waited too long before seeking help, it could be too late. Gottman’s research shows that couples wait a mean of six years before getting help (Gaspard, 2015).

But for those that plan to change, therapy can help. Gaspard (2015) offered the subsequent ways it does:

  • If toxic relationship patterns are identified early, real change can begin.

  • Couples can plan to rebuild their marriage and make a renewed commitment or clarify the explanations about why they have to separate or end the marriage.

  • A motivated couple can begin to explore their problems and learn new ways to acknowledge and resolve conflicts as a result of the tools provided by the therapist.

  • A couples’ counselor can provide “neutral territory” to assist couples and run through tough issues with support.

  • Partners can begin to create trust and improve communication.


Summary

Contrary to the way relationships are portrayed within the movies, they're not all sunsets and roses. A far better metaphor is that of an ever-changing, complex dance. When two people get together with different histories, sensitivities, and anxieties, you're sure to strain against one another or get blown astray over the course of a many-year relationship. Overhaul your relationship with the H-E-A-L technique. By Hearing, Empathizing, Acting to change, and Loving, you're actively working for your partner and showing them that they matter and you care.

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